The Art of Dying

The art of dying requires a certain finesse. There are prescribed and predicted symptoms that each terminal person may go through, but each of us our own way of ending the journey.

Charlie died less than 2 hours ago. We knew he’d be going soon, but the nurses told us we had hours left. My gut said, it’s time…but we began to talk about taking mom home for an hour or so.

Twenty minutes later, Sue, Fay and I stroked him and talked to him as he took his last breath.

He died well.

He died quietly with no pomp. 

He died with the sunlight and beautiful warm breeze blowing in on him from the open French doors in his room. The nurses had faced his bed to the door and pushed him close to the outdoors.  He hadn’t been outside in weeks…it was perfect.


3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rosanne
    Sep 13, 2009 @ 20:38:01

    One journey ends, another journey begins…thanks so much for sharing your thoughts through this time when you wanted to scream, to laugh, to cry, to withdraw, to be close, to run away, all jumbled up and tangled together at the same time.
    Thanks, Audrey, for stretching the vision of those who haven’t been through a walk like this and for giving words to those who have.
    Thanks, Audrey, for sharing a piece of your family’s heart with us. May we hold it gently and reverently.
    Charlie’s healing is complete. May your healing now begin.


  2. tracey
    Sep 13, 2009 @ 21:15:10

    Audrey thank you for sharing this journey of your life with us and know that you have touched each and every one of us along the way. We have learned, laughed and even cried with you as you have journeyed. Now our prayers go out to each member of your family and all the lives that your father in law touched while here on earth. May he now be at peace mind body and spirit.


  3. Maynard
    Sep 15, 2009 @ 17:37:54

    Charlie’s journey to the end seemed much too long, much too demanding and stressful for all–but that isn’t a choice we get to make. I am sure there is some sort of purple heart for people like you and Andy who helped make his journey more humane. What a gift you have given! Blessings to you both.


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